Jim Strickland's "Straight Talk" is moving

Hello Invisible Readers!  I have news.  I've been telling you about Jim Stricklands' Google Forum, Straight Talk for Military Veterans since we opened it last October.  It has grown tremendously and I'm proud to say I'm sure we've helped a lot of Veterans along the way.  The beautiful thing about Straight Talk is that all the advice doesn't just come from Jim Strickland.  It comes from the members.  Veterans reaching out to Veterans and it's a beautiful sight to behold.  The moderators, Jim, Womenvets, Painter & myself have an easy job.  We just sit back, approve new members, moderate messages and occasionally get rid of members who can't/won't abide by our simple rules:  no bashing of other members and no cussing.  Be respectful of everyone.  How hard is that?  We chip in and offer advice, too, but the board runs itself and isn't dependent on any one singular person.  In my opinion, Straight Talk is an overwhelming success and I'm not just saying that because I like Jim Strickland and call him my friend.

Google has been a good host for Straight Talk but we think we've outgrown its capacities.  This morning we unveiled our new home and you can reach it by going tohttp://www.straighttalkforveterans.com.  When you register, you'll automatically be approved.  We've changed that from the old forum to save time.  We're growing so rapidly that it just doesn't make sense to have to approve each person individually.  We still approve each message so hopefully we'll still catch the spammers.

The new sight will take some getting used to for everyone.  The owners, the moderators and the members.  We ask the you be patient with the owners/moderators as we learn our way around the board.  I've been playing around with it for a couple of weeks now so I've had a head start on the members.  It's fairly straight forward once you start poking around in it.  It has options to notify you any time a new message has been posted, it has options to notify you when a response has been posted to something you've posted ... you get the idea.

The new forum is broken down into 12 categories.  That's different from the Google forum where members created a new "Topic" each time they posted something.  Hopefully, this will keep things more organized as long as members post to the correct category. 

If you haven't been a member of Straight Talk in the past I urge you to check it out.  Our members include but are not limited to VA employees, Veterans Service Officers, a NOVA attorney, veterans advocates and veterans like you and I, Invisible Reader, who just need help with our claims.  Some of us have more experience in one area than the other and everyone is willing to share what they know.  There is no charge for this advice --- everyone gives freely of their knowledge --- and there is a wealth of knowledge at Straight Talk.  

Of course, we also have Jim Strickland on board.  Owner, creator of Straight Talk,  contributor to VA Watchdog dot Org and Veterans Advocate Extraordinaire.  He is also my friend and I swear he didn't pay me to say that.  (I'll take that twenty now, Jim) (Oops, did I say that?)  Jim, as you know, preaches do-it-yourself claims and his website will walk you through how to do that, step by step.  Under his tutelage, that's what I am learning to preach and teach as well.

Come see us at our new home, Invisible Reader.  If you haven't joined us before, now is the time.  Having problems with your VA Claim for benefits?  Thinking about submitting a claim for an increase?  Got questions about applying for SSDI?  What will happen when you go in for your Comp and Pension exam? We can help you with all of that and so much more.  There isn't anything we aren't willing to tackle.  Try us out.  If you've done nothing to begin with, what have you got to lose?  We are Veterans helping Veterans.  Family members, you are welcome, too.  We recognize that family members are often times the ones taking care of their Veterans, handling their claims and entering an unknown, very strange world called the Department of Veterans Affairs.  Come see us.  We'll help you sort out the unknown.

In the meantime, I have to go chase down the nine month old doberman puppy we adopted yesterday from SPAY-LEE, Inc, an animal rescue organization. He's trying to eat everything in sight.

Rocco worn out after his first day with us.

Until the next time, Invisible Reader .......

A Brand New Look

Hello Invisible Readers!  If you are reading this blog from the website and not via Facebook, you've seen the new look.  What do you think?  It's beautiful, isn't it.  I'd like to take credit for it, but I can't.  I have absolutely zero knowledge when it comes to website design and my artistic talent .... well, let's just say I'm not very creative.  Give me a camera and I can take some great shots.  But I'll be damned if I can create a website that appeals to the human eye.  I just can't do it.

All the credit goes to Lori Hahn.  Until yesterday we'd never met and I had no clue who she was.  I happened upon her blog via an email I received from my friend Noonie, an author and researcher.  Noonie recommended that I read a blog Lori wrote about LTG Claudia Kennedy.  It was an interview regarding Don't Ask Don't Tell.  You can read the full article here.  

After reading the blog, I sent an email to Lori.  It was a three part email.  First, I told her how much I enjoyed her blog.  Second, I invited her to join STRAIGHT TALK.  You've heard me talk about STRAIGHT TALK.  It's the group started by Jim Strickland of VA Watchdog dot Org.  I'm a moderator there.  We do our best to help Veterans with benefits and claims.  We've got former VA employees, attorneys and VSO's available to answer your questions and they all contribute their time voluntarily and free of charge.  It's a great place to come to for answers.  Third, since Lori's blog has the attention of the LGBT Community, I was hoping that she might promote STRAIGHT TALK in one of her blogs.  Right now, I'm the only "out" lesbian at STRAIGHT TALK.  I've taken some crap over that from other members of STRAIGHT TALK but still I persist in bringing up LGBT issues.  I do this because I know there are other LGBT Vet members.  They have their reasons for staying closeted in STRAIGHT TALK and I respect that.

Lori and I emailed back and forth and I told her that I am also a blogger.  I sent her the link to this blog.  She emailed me back and told me, "Girl, we need to do something about that template!  Let me know if you ever want to do a redesign!  Easy-peasy and could be done as a favor in a very short time.  Seriously."

I was shocked.  Here was this woman I'd never met.  We'd just started emailing a couple of hours prior and here she was offering to redesign my blog template.  Needless to say I jumped at the opportunity.  If you are reading this from the blogspot website, you are looking at the fruits of her labor.  If you're reading this from Facebook you're missing out on a work of art.  "Seriously."  I love the new look and I can't tell you how grateful I am to Lori.  Thank you, Lori.  Thank you for helping someone you just met. 

Lori is also a Veteran.  Thanks for your service, Lori.  She served 8 years, half in the Air Force and half in the Army working in the Intel field.  Lori is very proud of the fact that she never spent a single night in the field during her 8 years in service.  I hear ya, Lori!  Lori has been blogging for years.  I started reading her blogs yesterday.  They are funny, insightful, touching and a joy to read.  She and co-editor, Margo Moon, just debuted Our Big Gayborhood.  Their banner reads, "Welcome to Our Big Gayborhood ... Where the Queers Write."  If you've been looking for a collection of LGBT Bloggers to read, Invisible Readers, visit the Gayborhood.  I promise you won't be disappointed.  I've already subscribed and I'll be a regular reader from now on.

Until the next time .....





 

  

An "Advocate" is not always an "Advocate". Let the buyer beware.

Hello, Invisible Reader. I'm finding that I'm covering more topics that stray from my battles against the VA more and more often. Variety is the spice of life. So, it's all good. If you don't like it you won't read this blog. I guess it's as simple as that.

Over the years I've subscribed to a lot of online Veterans groups. I subscribed to them in search of support. That's what Veterans do. We seek out our own kind. We subscribe to these groups looking for help. We hope that someone will have all the answers for us.

One group that I subscribed to and have been a member of for years is moderated by a Gulf War Veteran. Over the years I've tried to post the plight of women Veterans to that group. I've tried to post articles about how unfairly women Vets are treated at the VA Hospitals, how unfairly our claims are treated, how our claims for Military Sexual Trauma are rejected more often than our male counterparts are rejected for PTSD. The owner/moderator of that particular group basically told me I was out of my mind and had no clue what I was talking about. He refused to allow me to post links for women Veterans. He slapped me on moderate so that he could review all my posts. Needless to say, most of my posts never made it to the list. You can bet anything I tried to post on Don't Ask Don't Tell never saw the light of day.

Speaking of Don't Ask Don't Tell ... I've been asked on lists I've been a member of NOT to post anything about Don't Ask Don't Tell. I've been told not to bring up the subject of gays in the military. What kind of shit is that?

Just yesterday I unsubscribed from a group. I got into a pissing contest with one of the moderators. Someone posted some old information to the group. I made the comment "This is old news but thanks for sharing." The member had posted the info that Veterans and Retirees could now salute when the National Anthem was played. President Bush signed that into the Defense Authorization Act of 2009 in OCTOBER 2008. To me, that's old news. My comment was not sarcastic. I thanked the sender for posting it. The moderator jumped my shit and in his final email to me ... in a public forum, told me that if I commented one more time he would remove me "... understand". Since that was not the first time I'd gotten into it with that moderator, I unsubscribed myself. This particular group of late has had very little information being posted other than "prayer requests" for sick Veterans. I don't see how that is supposed to help the Veterans who go to that group for help with claims.

The best group on the internet right now is Jim Strickland's STRAIGHT TALK for Military Veterans. Anything goes. I should know. I'm a moderator on that group. Okay, okay .. so maybe I'm a little biased. We don't shy from anything. You should join us there. We have some really great people on our board including a couple of NOVA Attorneys who offer free advice on your claims. All we ask is that you don't flame the other Veterans in the group. We're all brothers and sisters there. Peace, love and harmony. We don't fight there. Debate, yes. That's fun. But keep it civil.

But back to my original subject. On all of these Veterans boards there are self proclaimed "Advocates." When you ask them what their qualifications are you never get a straight answer. They will tell you they've been doing claims for Vets for years. They will tell you that because they research information on the internet and they help Veterans, they are an "Advocate". They will tell you because they help Veterans fill out a claims application they are an "Advocate." Ask them what training they've had and they can't tell you. They will tell you that Bubba at the DAV, the VFW, The American Legion taught them how to fill out a claims application. That makes them an "Advocate". Does it? Do you really want to put your future in the hands of someone who doesn't know VA Law? I don't.

I've learned a lot this last year as my claim has gone through the system. You know my story if you've been reading this blog from the beginning. Am I an "Advocate"? Hell no. Do I talk about benefits to friends and strangers? You're damn right I do. Do I try to help every person that I can? You're damn right I do. Does that make me an "Advocate"? Nope. It sure doesn't. It just means that I want to help my brothers and sisters get everything they have coming to them. I don't pretend to know VA Law. I don't pretend to understand the system. I know just enough to make me dangerous. What I do know is where to go for answers. I am learning how to research. I have a long way to go before I will ever say I am an "Advocate".

Here is what I know. I completed the Vocational Rehab program in December 2000. I know how to apply. I can advise Veterans how that works. I can assist them with that and I can tell them how the program works. I know that program well because I was in it. Now I know that you can go back into Voc Rehab outside the 12 year window if your circumstances have changed drastically. I know that from personal experience. I can share with my brothers and sisters how to get back into Voc Rehab and how the Independent Living Program works because I'm living it. Does that make me an "Advocate"? Nope. But for some people, it does.

I am an 80% service connected disabled Veteran. I know how to file a claim. I can tell a Veteran how to file a claim and where to go to get the forms. I can point them in the direction of Jim Strickland's A to Z Guide with instructions on how to file a claim. That does not make me an "Advocate". It just means I'm one Veteran looking out for another Veteran.

What I'm telling you is this. Beware of self proclaimed "Advocates". Ask them what their qualifications are. Did they take and pass the course from the National Veterans Legal Services Program (NVLSP)? I haven't, but I will. One of my long term goals of my Independent Living Plan is to work with Veterans. I want to help Veterans get the benefits that I have. I will be taking this course. Will that immediately make me an "Advocate"? Not really. I have to take the exam in order to become a "certified Advocate" but even then, I still have a lot to learn. A certificate will not automatically make me an "Advocate". Experience will do that. A proven track record will do that. Trust and faith from other Veterans will do that.

One last thought before I let this go. On the boards a lot of the "Advocates" are the spouses of Veterans. I admire the work they do. Don't get me wrong. It's great that they stand beside their spouses. But I have to tell you this. Those "Advocates" did not wear the uniform. As a good friend said to me recently, "they are like the Ladies Auxiliary at the VFW or the DAV or the American Legion. They wear the vests with all the flash, they shine their shoes the brightest, they sing the songs the loudest but when it comes down to it, they are not Veterans." We Vets feel a bond, you see. I don't have that bond with the spouse of a Veteran. Sure, I can have a conversation with a spouse. But when push comes to shove, I have absolutely nothing in common with that spouse. That spouse didn't wear the uniform and they just don't "get it." They think they do, but they don't. But put me next to a Veteran and he or she is my brother or sister. Instantly.

Brothers and sisters, beware. When you're on the boards and an "Advocate" answers your questions, ask that "Advocate" where they got their qualifications. Are they trained in VA Law? Can they back up their answers? Life experience is good, Invisible Reader. I have a lot of that. I share it with friends and strangers. But I don't call myself an "Advocate" and I abhor those who do.

Until the next time...